NC Fathers is a blog maintained by an ever growing group of fathers in North Carolina, as well as many paternal family members (paternal grandmothers, step-mothers, paternal aunts and uncles, and other women in these families), who are working to reform the NC Courts, politicians, and educate others on issues related to NC Child Support Enforcement and Child Custody in NC.
How do we unite all Non-Custodial Families? We think what happens many times here is that non-custodial mothers hate this page because of custodial fathers, and non-custodial fathers hate this page because of custodial mothers. Folks, our organization does not advocate for ANY system that maintains the custodial and non-custodial roles. We are not advocating for custodial fathers or mothers. Our belief is that system pits parents against each other and encourages fighting (to win) for 18 years which only hurts children. We think that there needs to be two systems, one where shared parenting is the norm and first thought of Judges. ONLY after one parent either REFUSES to follow shared parenting or is found unfit via EVIDENCE (not accusations) then move to the custodial vs non-custodial roles until the unfit parent resolves his/her issues and then move back to equally shared parenting. Our appeal to you is stop focusing on what the non-custodial/custodial parent has done and focus on the system that is in place to KEEP you fighting to make THEM rich and receive federal money. Additionally, we are tired of being held accountable for domestic violence policies in the state when women are committing violence and neglect and they get custody.
NC Fathers is not a place for non-custodial fathers who make the conscious decision to NOT be active and involved their children’s lives, and who do not pay child support.
NC Fathers IS a place for fathers who desire to be in their children’s lives and are denied by the NC Courts, legislators, and other special interest groups.
Roughly half of custodial mothers today have male children who will one day be pushed to the margins of their kids lives if they experience a divorce and have children. Where do you think these non-custodial grandmothers (who will also be marginalized as well) will stand then? With Equally Shared Parenting?
Please take a moment to view this video and support the mega rock band Blue October who is on a 47 city tour to support equal and shared parenting access for fathers and females in the paternal family who are systematically alienated from their children by NC Legislators and the NC Family Courts. More on this initiative HERE.
Are YOU ANGRY knowing that your Child Support is helping Welfare Recipients and Low Income Assistance have a more fulfilled relationship with their children on the back of you being alienated from your children?
This is the new frontier in the family courts as it relates to shared parenting for non-custodial families. The NC Coalition Against Domestic Violence is using their considerable lobbying efforts and money to say that if shared parenting is realized, it will lead to more Domestic Violence. This confuses us though, because more Domestic Violence means greater fund raising efforts and state money that goes into their pockets. But that aside, the real problem is that it is going to mean greater accusations of violence to avoid shared parenting. This video below demonstrates just how easy it is to do.
Our group of bloggers believes that there are many reasons why NC Fathers do not get to see there children equally. These include Lawyers who get rich from parents paying retainers for 18 years, the State of NC making money via the federal child support enforcement legislation, feminist groups that are highly effective at lobbying legislators, and the NC domestic violence coalition that works in tandem with feminist groups to make sure courts stay divisive in favor of mothers. With this in mind, we need your help. If you are a NC Father, paternal grandmother, step-mother, or some other relative of a child via paternity then we believe you have a story to tell and there is no better way to do that than through blogging. Be sure, as the search engines are saturated with our plight and concerns, and we get the message out via social networking sites and other NC related blogs, then legislators and others will take notice. The only way Fathers in NC are going to get an equal ground in the NC Family Courts is if we force legislation and saturate our local communities with information related to what the paternal side of a family goes through in regards to custody and child support.
Again, we need several NC citizens who have first hand knowledge of the problems men face in the NC Courts, who love to write, and who have a passion for changing his/her situation.
Children need their NC Fathers
We believe that NC Children have a desire to be raised, parented, and nurtured by their fathers just as they do their mothers. We do not believe that children see us as “non-custodial” and “visitor”. We do not believe that children love their mothers more because they carried them in the womb for 9 months. Additionally, we believe that children have a equal biological and instinctive bond with their fathers as they do with their mothers.
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This is why we find it particularly disgusting that legislators, judges, and special interest groups put politics and money before our children.
Again, we need for NC Judges, legislators, special interest groups and others to see that the paternal side of child custody and child support is equally strong in regards to voters. They cannot deny the numbers of fathers, paternal grandmothers, step-mothers, aunts and uncles, and even now adults who recognized that their fathers probably wanted to be with them as children but were denied.
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