NC Non-Custodial Fathers and Parents READ NOW
This is an article that all NC Non-Custodial Fathers and Parents need to bookmark and read daily because we feel it addresses many issues you face daily in the NC Courts, with NC Judges, NC Legislators, and the venerable NC Office of Child Support and Enforcement. We are not only talking to NC Non-Custodial Fathers and Parents, we are talking to every single voting member of the non-custodial extended family.
Here is the bottom line for NC Non-Custodial Fathers and Parents:
YOU REPRESENT GREATER THAN 50% OF THE US POPULATION, DO YOU NOT REALIZE THAT ONCE YOU FACTOR IN NON-CUSTODIAL PARENTS, AND THEIR EXTENDED FAMILY, THE COLLECTIVE POWER YOU YIELD IS IMMENSE. IF YOU ARE TIRED OF NOT SEEING YOUR CHILDREN EQUALLY, OR GOING TO JAIL, PAYING ENFORCEMENT SO THAT YOU CAN SEE YOUR KIDS, OR HAVING YOUR LICENSE REVOKED, OR BEING CALLED A ABUSER OR DEADBEAT START ENDING POLITICIANS AND JUDGES CAREERS. WE ASSURE YOU IT WILL STOP.
There are well funded, super strong, and well aligned lobby groups and political parties at work every single day in NC who have agendas that need the word “Non-Custodial” (usually fathers) to exist to further their agendas and generate revenue. Until NC Non-Custodial Fathers, and EVERY SINGLE member and friends of his family unite and start using their money and voting power to meet the other side head on, you will continue to lose. You will continue to never win custody (except in extreme cases). You will continue to be jailed. You will continue to have a federal agency devoted to following you daily wanting more and more money. You will never have equal visitation. Judges will continue to allow custodial mothers and parents to move your children hundreds of miles away from you. You will continue to face false domestic violence and sexual abuse charges because they generate a lot of federal attention that gives the accuser an advantage in divorce settlements and child custody matters. You will continue to watch the custodial mother receive federal and state assistance, tax credits, housing assistance, educational assistance, and medical assistance while you RECEIVE NOTHING except your name revealed on a state sponsored “deadbeat father” registry website.
Why won’t NC Judges and Legislators allow us to pay child support to institutions that DIRECTLY affect our children instead of to a woman? Because the women lobby groups want child support to help children and WOMEN
Again, we are not only talking to the “NC Non-Custodial Father”. We know that paternal grandmothers are hurting. Sisters of NC Non-Custodial Father are hurting. We know that Step-Mothers are hurting. We know that a LOT of extended family members of the Non-Custodial parent are being beaten to death emotionally while mothers and her extended family are enjoying the fruits of raising and nurturing your children and grandchildren.
We do not care that NC Judges, NC Legislators, and others say about these issues not existing; YOU know these issues exists because you live it every single day as a NC Non-Custodial Father or Parent.
AGAIN, the bottom line is this, if the NC Non-Custodial family does not immediately meet and get together and start sending severe messages to NC Judges, NC Legislators, and Congress that the time for Shared Parenting is now, then everything outlined above will continue to burden NC Non-Custodial Fathers and his extended family.
We do not care if you are a Republican, Democrat, African-American, Hispanic, Asian, Caucasian, or Martian. The issues above directly affect NC Non-Custodial Fathers and numerous members in the extended family each and EVERY day in NC and it is killing one side of NC kids families, as well as NC Kids.
Until the issues outlined below are addressed as it relates to NC Non-Custodial Fathers and Parents, there will continue to be anxiety, anger, resentment, and mistrust between maternal and paternal extended families, the NC Courts and her officials, and NC legislators. But more importantly all the adjectives just mentioned will continue to form one big black cloud over the heads of NC’s kids.
- Drop the legal terms CUSTODIAL vs. Non-CUSTODIAL (AND VISITOR). Having divisive terms angers the lesser side.
- Equal visitation for both parents. We don’t care if you don’t get along. We don’t care that you need to move closer to mommy and daddy for support. We don’t care that you dislike each other. We don’t care that he/she has different parenting skills. We don’t care that you accepted a new job in another state. We don’t care that you met someone on the Internet and want to move where they live. You BOTH created a child and you BOTH are going to raise said child. Stop keeping files on each other outlining everything he/she has done wrong, we don’t care. Stop bad mouthing the other parent in public or face fines. When NC Judges do this, all the crazy and insane mayhem that clogs the courts will stop and parents will be forced to suck it up and get along for the betterment of the child.
- Get rid of the NC Office of Child Support Enforcement. When you have a designated federal agency that does work for custodial parents against NC Non-Custodial parents you set a fire for resentment, anger, hatred, and angst in the Non-Custodial parent and extended family that only leads to mistrust of the government and legislators. Tell both parents to suck it up and pay equally.
- Stop giving custodial mothers state and federal assistance. Give BOTH parents assistance to raise healthy and happy children.
Remember, the ones that balk at this idea are the ones who benefit financially from a divisive system. We don’t care what the experts say. We don’t care what the national organization for women or men say. We don’t care what psychologist and psychiatrist say. It does not take a brain scientist to understand when you give one parent extreme power, money, and benefits over the other parent it sets a fire. It is this fire that is destroying NC youth.
Now we realize we just advocated for a system that will decrease fighting and bring peace to NC’s kids. So why are we asking EVERY SINGLE NC Non-Custodial Father and EVERY SINGLE member of the paternal extended family to fight like hell to remove divisive judges and legislators, de-fund lobby groups that fight for “womens rights” or “fathers rights” rather that “childrens rights”, and remove from power anyone that advocates for divisiveness?
The answer to that question is unfortunately because nothing outlined above will happen unless the powers that be are FORCED to do it. There is too much money, power, and votes to be obtained by judges, politicians, and special interest groups in the current system. If you do not IMMEDIATELY use your money and align yourself and your family with other NC Non-Custodial Fathers and their extended family then you will CONTINUE TO LOSE and your Children will CONTINUE TO BE ALIENATED FROM YOU.
Again, one last time, if you do not make this a daily fight for the rest of your life then you need to stop complaining about your rights being violated or telling us how you have had this and that happen to you. When you are ready to start this journey, Contact US.
NC Fathers is also very interested in hearing from non-custodial fathers who are in the military and stationed at Camp Lejeune, Cherry Point, Pope Air Force Base, and Fort Bragg. We believe that military fathers face an even greater uphill battle than fathers in the civilian world and we want to hear more about your experiences. Specifically, we hear time and time again how Judges will tell military fathers that they cannot have custody or anything close to healthy visitation because they are deployable, yet women in the military who have children don’t appear to have the same hurdle to overcome.
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