Parental Alienation and the Family Courts
Parental Alienation in NC is a very serious problem that we consider child abuse, but seemingly nobody in the NC Family Courts and Legislature seem concerned about it. Each day, we hear from parents by the dozens who tell us that the other parent refuses to allow children to see them (usually the non-custodial parent) even when there is a court order to do so. In fact, we hear daily that Judges in the NC Family Courts routinely overlook cases of parental alienation in contempt hearings where they are found to be in violation of alienation but the Judge refuses to hold them accountable. If you are a NC non-custodial family member, be it a parent, step-parent, grandparent, or other member of the family, then we encourage you to join NC Fathers either by signing up for our email based MAILING LIST or FACEBOOK PAGE where we routinely discuss parental alienation and the NC Family Courts. Our GOAL is to build a very large group of NC non-custodial families who have had enough with the laws in North Carolina which have a huge impact on non-custodial families and their children. Additionally, in this article we are going to discuss many of the reasons why custodial parents routinely alienate a child from a non-custodial parent and why we consider it so abusive. But one thing is for sure, nothing will be done about this until millions of non-custodial families in North Carolina stand up to Judges and Legislators and demand changes to how the Family Courts operate, and start holding these parents accountable.This is an important video for every Man and Woman in paternal families to watch. In this scenario, if at ANY time she would have picked up the phone and said “I’m scared”, the Father in this video would have gone to jail, lost his job, had his assets transferred to her, and stigmatized in society. Also important is the 4:35-4:52 mark in this video where she lets him know that at anytime, despite her behaviors, she can call the police and have him removed. And Domestic Violence only happens to Women huh?
If you have a story to tell about parental alienation in NC, then we encourage you to use the comment section below this post to tell us your story. You can remain anonymous if you wish. Furthermore, if you are a part of a non-custodial family in NC, then we encourage you to click on the RED and BLUE graphic below, read it, then share extensively on Facebook, Twitter, and other social networks so that other non-custodial families can get hooked into our organization and help us grow so that we have significant numbers to force reform in the NC Family Courts. Remember, non-custodial families come from every ethnic and culture, political party affiliation, and socioeconomic background. And, it’s important to point out that women in non-custodial families are being hit by the issues we will discuss in this article.
It is also important to note that custodial parents are not the only entity that is responsible for alienating parents in NC. For going on six decades now, the NC Family Courts have systematically been responsible for children and one of their parents not having the ability to be in each others life as they wish. Our system, by which one parent has to be custodial and one parent non-custodial (and having remarkably less time with the child) is the chief alienator in parents lives.
Parental Alienation in NC is Child Abuse
While Fathers are the primary group of people who NC who are alienated from their children by the Family Courts and Custodial Mothers, we do acknowledge that many Non-Custodial Mothers do suffer from this at the hands of Custodial Fathers.
So what is the root cause of parental alienation in NC?
- Custodial parents have the belief that they are entitled to be the sole parent of the children because for decades the family courts have decided in their favor while pushing the other parent to the margins of kids lives.
- Custodial parents will often alienate another parent from children purposefully, then go around telling the world that they are victims while seeking social services programs and support.
- Parental Alienation in NC is alive and well because in our state the amount of time the non-custodial parent spends with the child is directly related to the amount of child support the custodial parent receives. Many custodial parents have become dependent on child support and need more and more. The easiest way to do this is to alienate the other parent and then run to the courts screaming abandonment.
- Parental Alienation is particularly useful for parents that depend on the countless social services programs to exists, and therefore have no need for the other parent to be involved.
- Custodial parents will often time be very subtle in how they perpetuate alienation of the other parent, but most often of the time the parent will constantly make horrible comments about the other parent in hopes of socializing the child into hating the other parent and deciding that they never want to see the other parent again.
- Parental alienation is often used as a tactical tool in the NC Family Courts in hopes of putting a hopeful custodial parent in the winning column. How this happens is almost criminal. One parent will decide that their relationship or marriage is over, leave the home, move seven states away and force the other parent to find $20,000 to spend on a lawyer. Many times this can take months, at which point Judges say that because so much time has passed, you abandoned the child(ren).
- creating the impression that the target parent was dangerous and planned to hurt the child, in order to instill fear and rejection of that parent.
NC Non-Custodial Parents and Families Must Stop Parental Alienation
As non-custodial parents, step-parents, grandparents, aunts and uncles, and even friends of our families, we know that parental alienation in North Carolina is a serious problem that affects our lives daily. But more importantly, it is affecting our children which often suffer great depression, anxiety, and ways of acting out because of the loss of a natural parent. Our organization is committed to fighting parental alienation and educating Judges in the Family Courts and Legislatures about this problem, but we will have no success unless every single non-custodial parent and extended family steps up and helps us. If the bias in the family courts is not enough, whereby Judges consistently allow for a system that mandates judicial alienation of one parent because of out-dated laws, parental alienation is salt in the wound. If you are reading this article as a woman in the non-custodial family, who is lamenting the fact that your son or daughter is being purposefully manipulated by a custodial parent and using your grandchild or step-child as a tool to do so, then we strongly encourage you to join our organization, either by joining our MAILING LIST or FACEBOOK PAGE and responding to the Legislative Alerts that we issue. Additionally, we hope that you will extensively share this article on parental alienation in North Carolina with other families using the popular social networking sites like Facebook and Twitter so that we can maximize our message.
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