Republican Senator Warren Daniel – Burke and Cleveland NC County Families

Republican Senator Warren Daniel represents voters in Burke and Cleveland County NC which is made up of a large amount of non-custodial parents, step-parents, grandparents, aunts and uncles, and other family members and friends. Senator Daniel is an attorney and sits as Co-Chairman on the powerful Judiciary II committee which would undertake the issue of family court reform, social services reform, and equally shared parenting. NC Fathers is an organization of NC non-custodial family members who have had enough of this historical profiteering of the family courts and who are tired of being marginalized to visitor families 4 days a month and under federal enforcement as a payment provider to their young loved ones. NC Fathers is sending the message to Senator Warren Daniel and other Republican lawmakers that our intent is to reach every single Burke and Cleveland County NC non-custodial family member and ask them to review our goals and join our mailing list in an effort to build a citizen lobby group that demands that the Senator addresses our needs. If you identify with this article and want to support our organization, be it as a non-custodial family or proponent of shared parenting, we ask that you join our Facebook page and collaborate with us. NC Fathers reminds Senator Warren Daniel and Senate Republicans that given the divorce rate and system by which one family HAS to be marginalized in a child’s life after divorce or relationship breakdown via the family courts, there are a lot of voters from every political party affiliation, culture and race, socioeconomic status, and educational level who have a stake in this reform.

Senator Harry Brown and Jones/Onslow County Non-Custodial Families

Republican Senator Harry Brown is a lawmaker who serves Onslow and Jones County NC voters in the NC General Assembly. This article serves all non-custodial family members in Onslow and Jones County NC who have simply had enough with the bias and divisiveness in the family courts which has led to your families being marginalized, disenfranchised, and stigmatized as visitors to your children if you are even allowed that. NC Fathers believes that the best outcomes for children after divorce or relationship breakdown is for children to continue to have near equal access and support from both parents AND their extended families which is something the Federal Government and State of NC can ever accomplish, and we need for you to join our organization to help send this message to Senator Harry Brown and other Republicans in the General Assembly. Furthermore, you can join our FACEBOOK PAGE and interact and collaborate with other non-custodial family voters in Onslow and Jones County NC. Lastly, our goals and mission is stated here. Senator Brown should also recognize that our organization is made up of individuals who have experienced abuse within the Onslow County DSS system, and we are a group of men and women who come from every racial and cultural background, socioeconomic background, educational background, and political party affiliation. Additionally, we are represented by a lot of military families at Camp Lejeune who experience far greater abuses in the family court simply for being a service member.

Heidi Baur – Onslow County NC Social Services Director Alert

This article officially puts Heidi Baur, who is the Onslow County NC Social Services Director, on notice that NC Fathers has had enough with the insanity coming out of DSS in Jacksonville and Onslow County. As an organization that has a reach all over the State of NC, one would expect to discontent from citizens in the large metropolitan areas like Charlotte, Raleigh, and Greensboro. Yet, we consistently hear from people who have amazing things to say about Onslow County DSS and Child Protective Services and it is time for there to be a blog present for more and more of these families to discover and unite around an organization that demands Onslow County Representatives and Senators deal with these problems. If you have had dealing with Heidi Baur, child protective services, and other social services staff in Onslow County where you believe they have overstepped their legal bounds then we encourage you to join our MAILING LIST and make contact with us on FACEBOOK where you can collaborate with other who have likely experiences social services abuses and talk with us. If you are interested about or organization, both of the graphics below explains our GOALS. While this blog will be made available to Heidi Baur and DHHS staff who oversee social services policies and procedures in Raleigh, this blog is not asking the Director to do anything or change anything within her system because it is likely see will not agree with our article. This article exists solely for those families in Onslow County who have no voice against this agency when they get things wrong. Nothing is ever going to change until there is a unification of non-custodial families and families who have experienced illegal and abusive acts from the agency Heidi Baur administrates. Lastly, there is a comments section at the end of this article where anyone can tell their story to the public and Onslow County Social Services Director.

NC Grandparent Rights and Child Custody

NC Grandparent Rights is an issue that has heated up lately, so we wanted to write an article that gives our personal thoughts on the issue of grandparents and their rights to minor children after a divorce or relationship breakdown. Before we do, NC Fathers is an organization of non-custodial parents, grandparents, step-parents, and other family members who are trying to reform the family courts for judicial non-discretion equally shared parenting when it comes to custody matters when both parents are fit. You can join our organization’s FACEBOOK PAGE and MAILING LIST after reading our GOALS if you identify with this article. Our organization believes that the current family court system is build around one parent winning custody and control while the other parent loses and becomes marginalized with the system as a mere visitor and payment provider. We believe this has the result of pushing one parent, grandparent(s), and step-parents to the outer margins of their kids lives which creates great divisiveness and leads to increases in domestic violence, fighting, anxiety, depression, substance abuse, and eventually very hopeless and sick children. Under an equal system, there would be nothing to fight over, no need for parents to excoriate each other, and parents and grandparents could learn to work together for the betterment of NC children. While we place a lot of impact on parental empowerment, we also realize several areas where grandparent rights do come into play in NC and we will address those below.

Leading Women For Shared Parenting

Leading Women For Shared parenting is an organization of women who are supporting equally shared parenting and NC Fathers applauds their efforts. Even though we are an organization based in North Carolina who has undertaken the same mission, we have long pointed out that many women should be supporting shared parenting as it is without a doubt the best option for healthy children after a divorce or relationship breakdown. For many decades various organizations have attempted to frame this debate through the lens of mother vs. father and made this a “Women’s Rights” issue. But we disagree. There are many women across the world who have a stake in shared parenting and these include non-custodial mothers and women in their extended family, women in paternal families, and any mother who has a male child and wants to make sure that he has an equal interest in his kid’s life should he experience divorce. The Leading Women For Shared Parenting is made up of an impressive list of women well known to shared parenting activism and lobbying, and they include Dr. Linda Nielsen of Wake Forest University, Barbara Kay of the Canadian National Post, Jill Egizzi of parental alienation awareness organization, Molly Olson of the Center For Parental Responsibility, Phyllis Schalfly of the Eagle Forum, Jill Carter who is a civil rights activist and member of the Maryland General Assembly, Rachel Alexander who is a political columnist and attorney, Representative Phyllis Pond of Indiana, Dr Janice Fiamengo of the University of Toronto, Sheila Peltzer of KN2P, Ruth Langford of wikivorce, Terry Gaspard, MSW of the Huffington Post, Senator Sylvia Allen (Ret) of Arizona, Mary Lou Ambrogio of the International Free Press Society, Paulette McDonald, Erin Pizzey a UK Domestic Violence pioneer, Gwendolyn Landolt an attorney and founder of REAL women for Canada, Karen Selick an attorney, Lise Bilodeau found of ANCQ, Barbara Mills who is a subject matter expert on domestic violence, and Kris Titus of the Canadian Equal Parenting Council. If you are a woman who is devoted to the cause of equally shared parenting then we encourage you to join Leading Women For Shared Parenting.

I Don’t Have a Job, Do I Still Have To Pay Child Support?

Before discussing the question of you not having a job in NC and whether you will still have to still pay child support, we must inform you that our organization is not a law firm and nothing about this article should be taken as legal advise. If you have questions about child support and employment, or job assistance, then we suggest contacting a lawyer in your county and the employment security commission. The short answer to your question is yes, you do still have to pay child support even if you cannot find a job in North Carolina. And, as a non-custodial parent, no you do not have access to the many social services programs to help with food, job assistance, daycare, medical help, and housing like custodial parents receive to make ends meet. If you do not have a job and are ordered to pay child support, your only option is jail if you cannot pay child support. You do have the option to go to court and have your child support re-calculated based upon the fact that you lost your job, but that is very costly. Of course, custodial parents get free child support enforcement lawyers to do their job of making sure that you are paying as much child support as possible whether you have a job or not. If you are one of the lucky ones who can afford to spend $5000 with an attorney to handle your child support matter, then it is POSSIBLE a Judge will re-calculate your child support obligation on the federal minimum wage figure, but that is no guarantee because they have discretion to do anything they want. In short, you will never be ordered to pay NO child support, at the very minimum you will pay child support based on minimum wage even if you have no job or income. And no, you will not be given equal custody and time with your children so that you can offset your child support payment through directly supporting your children. In NC, the name of the game is to socialize non-custodial parents into the role of payment providers and visitors to your children, not equal parents with equal access to their kids and social services help.

Judge Robert Martelle – Rutherford and McDowell County District Court

Judge Robert Martelle is a newly appointed Judge in the Rutherford and McDowell County NC District Court and was appointed by Governor Pat McCrory after another District Court Judge moved to Superior Court. NC Fathers is an organization of McDowell and Rutherford County non-custodial parents, step-parents, grandparents, and other family members who are tired of the highly divisive one parent wins, the other parent loses family courts where the losing parent and family get marginalized to a role of visitor and payment provider instead of as a healthy parent that directly supports their children. You can join our organization by liking us on Facebook or by joining our mailing list after reading our goals. NC Fathers is sending a clear message to Judge Martelle that the best interest of children is not focusing on child support collection from a parent who could not win a court case, but rather developing a system by which both parents are on equal ground so that they and their extended families can directly love and nurture their children which is something no government enforcement agency can ever do. Additionally, we hope that Rutherford and McDowell County NC Non-Custodial families will extensively share this article on Judge Robert Martelle (and other District Court Judges) with friends and family on the popular social networking sites like Google+, Facebook, Twitter, and Linkedin.

Preponderance, Domestic Violence, and Child Custody

Before starting our article on Preponderance of the Evidence, Domestic Violence, and Child Custody in the Family Law system, we must inform you that this organization is not a law firm and the writer of this article is not a lawyer. This article should not be taken as legal advise and is for educational purposes only. In this article, we are going to educate you on the relationship to the legal standard of preponderance of the evidence as it relates to domestic violence that is then used in child custody matters within the courts. Additionally, we are going to show how many organizations have found a way to not only monetize the family courts, but also domestic violence and intimate partner abuse. Daily, we get contact from individuals who tell us that they are having a hard time getting increased (or any) visitation with their children because of an allegation of abuse and it’s time that NC non-custodial families learn about the information in this document so that they can protect themselves. Furthermore, I am going to try to make this article as gender neutral as possible because the information herein is used against women sporadically, but it is impossible to overlook the fact that the information contained in this article is primarily affecting fathers and men in North Carolina who are in the family courts, or who have ongoing child custody issues. With that said, anytime an organization who discusses domestic violence and has the word fathers in their organization’s name, it tends to draw a lot of heat from Women’s Rights groups who usually defend themselves by calling us abuse apologist and who want to develop a system by which abuse of women can proliferate.  The reality is, there are a lot of mothers, step-mothers, and sisters of men who experience this daily, and therefore we have to deny that this is a male vs. female issue.

Miller Bowles Law Firm in Charlotte Rebuttal

Miller Bowles is a law firm in Charlotte NC that bills itself as a full service family law firm specializing in child custody, child support, domestic violence, and divorce. Recently, Miller Bowles published a press release aimed at defeating Senate Bill 610 which is a shared parenting bill within the NC General Assembly. According to their website, the lawyers that make up the Miller Bowles law firm are Kate Bowles Miller, Christopher Miller, Valerie Gefert, and Jennifer Paternostro. This article serves as a rebuttal to Miller Bowles argument and it is meant to get the attention of Charlotte NC and Mecklenburg County non-custodial parents, step-parents, grandparents, aunts and uncles and other families (potential future clients) who by all accounts represents a very large number of voters in Charlotte who have been pushed to the margins of their children’s lives as visitors and payment providers rather than families who are valued for their equal and direct parentage of their minor loved ones after a divorce or relationship breakdown. If you are reading this article as a Charlotte NC non-custodial family, NC Fathers would like to invite you to get active within our organization either by joining our FACEBOOK PAGE or MAILING LIST so that we can build a massive organization of NC non-custodial families who demand equal parentage and access to their children. You can also view OUR GOALS HERE.

Guest Blogging – Child Custody, Child Support, Non-Custodial Parent Issues

NC Fathers is seeking Guest Bloggers who have an above average knowledge of Child Support and Enforcement, Child Custody, Social Services, and Family Law Reform related issues as it pertains to non-custodial parents, step-parents, grandparents, and other family members who advocate for equally shared parenting. Why guest blog for our organization? We currently have a daily readership of over 1900+ unique visitors per day and have amassed at 5,000+ mailing list of NC non-custodial families that are seeking relief in the very biased NC Family Courts for the presumption of equally shared parent without judicial discretion. Additionally, we have been able to gain a significant page rank for our website and if articles are written well, then it is likely good search engine placement will be assured. If you are interested in becoming a guest blogger for our organization, then we most certainly would love to hear from you and you are encouraged to use THIS CONTACT FORM to get in touch with us.