NC Fathers Rights

Representative Deborah Ross – Wake County NC and Fathers

NC FathersThis is an open article asking Representative Deborah Ross (Democrat) of Wake County to answer some questions for Wake County NC Fathers, Paternal Grandmothers, and other females related to children by paternity. In short Representative Ross, NC fathers and females of paternity are tired to not seeing our children equally. We realize in NC the OFFICIAL word is that NC has no presumption for child custody matters, but UNOFFICIALLY given the statistics that 85% of women get custodial rights of children it sure smells of presumption. Furthermore, we are tired of the overly aggressive NC Child Support and Enforcement system using NC fathers to receive federal dollars for performance in collection of child support to pay for medicaid and other public assistance programs. Representative Ross, we are tired of NC fathers being jailed when they cannot meet their financial obligations for children, while custodial mothers who cannot meet childrens financial obligations receive federal and state assistance, tax credits, and housing/educational assistance. Moreover, we are tired of receiving only 4 days per month visitation with our children and the NC Courts routinely allowing mothers to move our kids across the country whenever she feels like it.


Roughly half of custodial mothers today have male children who will one day be pushed to the margins of their kids lives if they experience a divorce and have children. Where do you think these non-custodial grandmothers (who will also be marginalized as well) will stand then? With Equally Shared Parenting Representative Ross?

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So our questions for Representative Deborah Ross is as follows:

  • As a NC Democrat, you understand that 99% of federal legislation around aggressive child support and enforcement regimes, and womens rights in the NC Courts are introduced by Democrats. Have you ever considered the paternal females of children who rarely get to see their grandchildren and step-children? If fathers only get 4 days visitation, are you aware what is left for nurturing paternal grandmothers?
  • What do you say to the hundreds of thousands of African-American, Hispanic, and other minority Fathers and females of paternity who want equal visitation and physical custody of their children but are denied by the NC Courts?
  • Representative Ross, what do you say to the tens of thousands of now adults who realize that the courts and legislators favor a biased court in favor of women and this is what likely kept their fathers alienated from them?

Representative Deborah Ross - Wake County NC
After reading this, we sincerely hope that Representative Deborah Ross does not give us some political statement or legal mumbo jumbo and offer us documentation of why joint custody or shared parenting does not work. Because we will happily point out to Representative Ross that her data is likely skewed by lobbyist.

Our data is from children who love their fathers equally and desire to see them equally. They don’t distinguish a difference of love for who carried them for 9 months, they love and want both parents in their lives equally.

Representative Ross, we have several well optimized blogs targeting Wake County Fathers and Paternal Females that are getting tons of traffic. There are a lot of Wake County Paternal Families hurting tonight and who are desperately searching the Internet looking for reasons why NC judges simply refuse to give fathers custody and equal visitation. For the ones reaching our blogs, we would like to tell them that Representative Ross is doing something about this, so this is why we decided to reach out to you.

We also hope that Representative Ross is not pandering to the special interest groups that benefit financially from women receiving custody and the child support that is collected from fathers. Favoring lobby groups and special interest over children would not be a good thing.

If you are a Wake County NC Father or a female related to a child by paternity, we strongly encourage you to keep sending us your data, names, and contact information and we hope that you will contact Representative Ross and share your plight with her.

Republican and Democrat

Additionally, we hope you will read THIS POST as we think it will shed some light on why you as a Wake County NC Father are likely denied custody or equal visitation with your child(ren).

Please Remind Representative Deborah Ross that Non-Custodial families make up greater than 50% of the voting population and that this issue affects women and men, republicans and democrats, rich and poor alike.

Representative Deborah Ross and Wake County NC Democrat Party Missing In Action

It has been several months since this blog was written, and we have sent several email to Representative Deborah Ross as well as the Wake County Democrat Party simply asking them to comment on the issues in this blog and both have decided not to. This is disturbing since non-custodial families in Wake County deserve better from their representatives. At this point, regardless of what party affiliation you have, we are asking our readers to take issue with Representative Ross at the next election because WE certainly believe that non-custodial fathers and the females in the paternal family deserve better and equal shared parenting with you children as well as equal access that is not defined by enforcement.

Democrat Representative Deborah Ross and the “War on Women”

In a recent News and Observer interview, Represenative Deborah Ross told a reporter that there is a “War on Women” which serves to hurt women and children. NC Father was appalled to hear this as we believe there are a LOT of women in paternal families (step-mothers, paternal grandmothers, and paternal aunts) who are being beaten down by the biased policies of the NC Family Courts, especially those in Wake County NC. As a Representative who sits on the House Judicary subcommittee, it is our assertion that Representative Ross is partially responsible for not even discussing equally shared parenting in North Carolina, and is effectively throwing women in paternal families under the bus.

By continuining to talk about children only from the perspective of “women and children”, it is clear that Representative Deborah Ross has does not view the opportunities and resources paternal families bring to the table for children. Our organization certainly hopes that women voters in Wake County NC consider this before they cast a vote for her in the next elections.

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This is the message from Representative Deborah Ross, the NC League of Women Voters, and the Democrat Party.

We wonder if Representative Ross has done her homework outside of the Feminist Womens’ circles, because we hear daily from women of paternity who are screaming their heads about the feminist movement and their hostage holding of the liberal NC Courts that deny men equal access to their children ( and consequently women in the extended paternal family…. who vote by the way )

Are you really for equality Representative Ross, or just equality for certain members of your voting base?

As a Attorney, are you at all concerned that women get free legal assistance via child support enforcement while men and the paternal family of females have to spend $5000 retainers every time an issue arises? What if this issue was reversed, where would Representative Ross be on this issue?

We encourage women of paternity to deny Representative Deborah Ross’s her agenda of using feminism to propel herself into NC politics. Each and every day you, as paternal grandmothers, sisters of men, step-mothers, and others members of the paternal family,  you know that feminism has no love for you as it relates to child custody and child support.


August 21, 2011 - Posted by | Uncategorized | ,


  1. I am a paternal grandmother and registered Democrat in Wake County. Has Representative Ross had any contact with this organization since this dated article was written? I am VERY much onboard with the issues you discuss in this article. I am tired of the parental warfare in the courts where it seems one family loses, while the other family wins. In these situations the kids always lose.


    Comment by Jennie S | September 22, 2012 | Reply

    • Jennie,
      Representative Deborah Ross has not contacted us about this article, or about equally shared parenting. We fear that Wake County NC Democrats are more concerned about custodial mothers and the funding of Welfare. It is good to see women standing up to this thinking process for the good of children.


      Comment by stompkinsnc | September 22, 2012 | Reply

  2. There are around 4 weekends in every month. If divorced fathers are seeing their children 4 weekend days per month then that is 2 out of 4 weekends or half the total weekend time. If both parents work and the custodial parent cooks and cleans and supervises homework during the week, then the 4 days of paternal contact deemed insufficient in the above blog complaint actually represents half of the available quality time. I agree it seems meager but the number of weekends in a month and the difficulty of working and parenting are not a product of feminism, only of reality.


    Comment by Name withheld | June 20, 2015 | Reply

    • Actually what is interesting about the feminist agenda is that feminist say no woman should lose custody of her children due to a career. But feminist love the fact that men lose their children in a custody battle because of work.


      Comment by stompkinsnc | June 26, 2015 | Reply

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