NC Fathers Rights

NC Representative Sarah Stevens – Alleghany and Surry County

Representative Sarah StevensThis is an open letter to NC Representative Sarah Stevens asking her to engage Alleghany and Surry County NC Non-Custodial families in dialogue centered around equal shared parenting and ending the divisive NC Family Courts. If you are a Non-Custodial Father or immediate member of the paternal family, be it a second wife, grandmother, sister, or brother, you know the difficulties faced in what seems like highly divisive and biased courts. When talking with Representative Sarah Stevens, please be sure to remind her of the key points outlined below that are consistent not only in Alleghany and Surry counties, but in all 100 NC Counties. Additionally, we ask that you join our growing MAILING LIST of Non-Custodial families in NC who stand ready to use their voting power to reform the NC Family Courts and end their divisiveness that we believe encourages parental fighting, is focused on revenue generation for the State of NC via child support enforcement, and keeps special interest groups alive.



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NC Fathers is asking Representative Sarah Stevens to Click on the RED and BLUE graphic below to get a good idea of the issues Alleghany and Surry County NC Non-Custodial Fathers, Paternal Grandmothers, Step-Mothers, Paternal Aunts, and other females in Paternal Families Face Daily. Paying close attention to the information about the Social Security Act Funding Social Services Welfare and Low Income Assistance Programs, how do you feel knowing that by being alienated from your children so that you can pay increased child support, you are helping these social services recipients enjoy a more comfortable existence with their children? Angry?

NC County Court

Key Points for Representative Sarah Stevens:

  • Given the divorce rate of 52% NC, the latest statistics show that 42% of those divorces occurred with minor children in the mix. Therefore, non-custodial parents (usually a father) represents 42% of the voting population. When you add in just one very strong immediate family member of a non-custodial family (usually a female), you have a very strong majority voting block and swing vote.
  • Why a swing vote? Non-Custodial parents who are getting beaten to death in the NC Family Courts come from all races, genders, and socioeconomic backgrounds. This issue affects Republicans and Democrats, African American and Hispanics, Women and Men, and the Rich and Poor alike.
  • Remind Representative Stevens that this is not a male vs. female issue. Be sure that females in the Non-Custodial family are hurting equally. This includes step-mothers, grandmothers, female siblings, and aunts of minor children.

Sarah Stevens Represents Alleghany and Surry County NC

Representative Sarah Stevens and Alleghany/Surry County NC Non-Custodial Family Voters

In addition to the key points, please ask Representative Sarah Stevens to explain to voters in Allehgany and Surry Counties, as well as voters all over NC, to explain these core issues that Non-Custodial Families face.

  • Why is Alleghany and Surry County Child Support Enforcement just focused on enforcement of income and what is the relationship to the State of NC receiving incentive payments from the US Federal Government for INCREASED and PERFORMANCE based enforcement? Please ask Representative Stevens to show you how much Alleghany and Surry County got last year in federal funding for collection of child support. Are you happy knowing that the State of NC generates revenue on the backs of you and your children not seeing each other regularly as opposed to how much mothers and maternal families see your children? Does PERFORMANCE and INCREASED mean less visitation to increase support awards that can be tracked via enforcement that maximizes incentive payments?
  • Ask Representative Stevens which has a greater impact on Alleghany County and Surry County children: 1) Enforcement and money collection of one parent for the aid of the maternal/child relationship, or 2) Equal and Sustaining Resources and Opportunities from both parents and extended family members.
  • Be sure to ask Representative Sarah Stevens why Judges in the Alleghany and Surry County courts still allow Custodial parents to move children hundreds and sometimes thousands of miles away from Non-Custodial families. Be sure to ask her how this is helpful to children.
  • Ask Representative Stevens if she supports the “Deadbeat Dad” phenomena where Sheriff’s and Police Chiefs routinely put the faces and finances of Non-Custodial parents on LIFELONG websites in an attempt to shame and humiliate them into submission. Ask the distinguished representative how parents in jail make money to pay off child support obligations. In addition, ask her to provide you with data from Alleghany and Surry County Sheriff’s showing the cost to taxpayers to find, arrest, house, feed, and pay medical cost on these non-violent offenders. Did we not learn from the civil rights era that calling other groups of people derogatory names and humiliating them in public does no good for society as a whole? How is this affecting bullying in schools for kids who’s father is on a state website?
  • Officially, NC has no presumption for who gets custody of a child. But stats from the Administrative Offices of the Courts show that 85% of mothers receive custody. 85% is a rather large number for no presumption. Is there officially no presumption, but unofficially a presumption?
  • Why do Custodial Parents have access to a super powerful federal agency that provides them with legal representation when Non-Custodial families have to find $4000-$5000 retainers to hire private attorneys each time NC Child Support Enforcement wants to talk? Ask Representative Stevens how many times a year Non-Custodial families can sustain this before they are forced to give up.


And lastly, we encourage all Alleghany and Surry County voters to ask Representative Sarah Stevens why it is so difficult to recognize the simplicity and greater good for NC Children to address everything above with equal shared parenting where parents develop strong parenting plans that they agree to follow and THEN deal with those that do not follow this plan. How is taking this component out of the picture and systematically alienating one half of the family from the start good for children Representative Stevens?

Representative Sarah Stevens and NC Non-Custodial Family Dynamics

NC Fathers is sending the message to Republican Representative Sarah Stevens that Alleghany and Surry County non-custodial fathers, step-mothers, paternal grandparents, and aunts and uncles represent a lot of voters. And, that each day in court, Alleghany and Surry County NC Judges create many more. Additionally, Rep Stevens should recognize that many women in paternal families get hurt equally each time that these Judges marginalize Fathers. Furthermore, non-custodial families come from every racial and ethnic background, political affiliation, and economic status.

Representative Sarah Stevens should recognize that 40% of children born in NC are from parents who are not married, and that these fathers have zero legal rights to their children. Representative, these people are finding their way to our organization by the day because NC Legislators are not listening. And, these are a lot of voters.

Please consider using the social sharing buttons below to share this post on Representative Sarah Stevens with other Alleghany and Surry County NC Non-Custodial families. And, please join our MAILING LIST and FACEBOOK PAGE to help build momentum on our goal to build a non-custodial family lobby in NC that forces politicians and Judges to equalize the Family Courts, and end the generation of federal money for Welfare off child support enforcement.

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  1. Sarah Stevens is a Divorce Attorney and a NC State Representative. How can I pay her salary AS A CITIZEN, but yet my wife pays her to attack me in open court. She is a HUGE PROBLEM. PRACTICING ATTORNEYS SHOULD NOT BE ALLOWED TO HOLD OFFICE…….


    Comment by Name withheld for protection | October 9, 2012 | Reply

    • Sir, you have a very valid point on Representative Sarah Stevens, and I must admit I don’t know the laws on this. Perhaps there is not one, but I agree that she should not be conducting trials in Alleghany and Surry County NC while still holding office. Seems like a conflict of interest. And how are you supposed to contact your state representative for any questions, concerns, or complaints if she is your ex-wife’s attorney? WOW! Have you joined us on Facebook?


      Comment by stompkinsnc | October 9, 2012 | Reply

  2. Are you kidding me? Does this organization really expect representative sarah stevens to “reform” the courts?


    Comment by Kelly in Surry County | October 12, 2012 | Reply

    • Kelly,
      Nobody at NC Fathers expects Rep Stevens to reform the family courts, or for that matter any NC Representative. This purpose of this article is for when her constituents in Surry and Alleghany County search her, they find this article. And, we expect greater than half of those people will have ties to a non-custodial family in NC.


      Comment by stompkinsnc | October 12, 2012 | Reply

  3. My son and I (grandmother ) have not seen his daughter in over two years. DSS involved? Nope. He is trouble with the law? Nope Poverty? Yes! His ex-wife left him and immediately went 3 states away and just pushed him out of the child’s life and we have no recourse because we don’t have $7,000 to hire an attorney. Representative Stevens was contacted and basically told us “oh well”.

    I suspect her is looking out for her colleagues and their millions they make from this game.


    Comment by Elizabeth | September 7, 2015 | Reply

    • Elizabeth, we have contacted Representative Sarah Stevens on this very subject and you are right, she does not care if literally one half of a child’s family can be dismissed and nothing can be done about it. It’s child abuse, abuse that our own State Republicans allow to have so that their lawyer friends and their powerful lobby can control.


      Comment by stompkinsnc | September 7, 2015 | Reply

  4. Republicans and Rep Stevens does not care about fathers, but they should the female voters in their families who love their grandchildren, step-mothers who love their step-children, and others. This is a very disgusting issue in NC where millions of parents and extended families lose contact with a child because a retainer fee stands in the way, where the other parent didn’t need a retainer fee to do what she did.

    The Republican party talks so big about family, BS! They are out for the wealthy lobby groups.


    Comment by Henry | September 7, 2015 | Reply

  5. If any father or female in a paternal family ever votes for this legislator again, you have essentially sealed your fate in the courts. Quite frankly I am tired of hearing fathers and their extended families while about their clear bias in the courts then you do nothing about it.


    Comment by Jason | September 7, 2015 | Reply

  6. Representative Sarah Stevens has made millions off fathers not being allow to have equal parentage of their children. She cares nothing about this children or females in paternal families. We already knew she cares nothing about fathers after 100 years of pushing them out of the family either through the courts or divorce sought by 77% of women who after divorce doesn’t want the father involved.

    Are we sure that Representative Stevens isn’t a liberal, cause this is literally the liberal playbook in family law.


    Comment by Jennie | September 7, 2015 | Reply

  7. Attention Alleghany and Surry County Voters: Representative Sarah Stevens is the single committee member who could start the process of family law reform from one that encourages two parents to fight in a court of law over children because we do not have a shared system to one that encourages maximum time with both parents and both sets of extended family members.

    This system over the past 70 YEARS has destroyed our children, while making lawyers rich, of which Representative Stevens was one when practicing. She is looking out for the special interest lawyers association and it is time to let her know through our votes from non-custodial parents and EVERYONE in their families outnumber lawyers 70 to 1 in this state.

    The courts have created so many of us, we don’t even need a lobby group. Our vote NO for Representative Stevens is so substantial there is nothing the lawyers association can do. The reason that you hardly ever see your children, grandchildren, step-children, and nieces and nephews is because the courts are biased and centered around fighting and making lawyers billable hours instead of finding middle ground. In short, your pain and misery is a direct result of Republican lawyers like Representative Stevens who look out for lobby groups rather than the people of North Carolina. I am encouraging Alleghany and Surry County voters from non-custodial families to vote NO in any future elections she runs in until she reforms the family courts.


    Comment by Amy | September 20, 2015 | Reply

  8. I am a retired military officer. I am currently going through this horrific ordeal. I have not seen or talked to my little girls in two years. I have contacted child protection , social services, my lawyer, DA, and no one seems to think this is important. My ex helped me to have to retire earlier than expected, had several investigation launched (all dismissed), but now I can’t get a job. She is living in the house I pay mortgage on and driving the car I pay the note on until I recently had to retire. Now I am about to have to foreclosure on the home she is still in and the bank is about to repo the car she is driving. My children were taking out of school by their mother and have been totally isolated from me,their friends, and my family. My children are being brain washed by their mother and no one cares. What a way to treat a veteran North Carolina.


    Comment by Jarvis | September 29, 2015 | Reply

    • Jarvis, meet Representative Sarah Stevens who heads up the Judiciary in the NC General Assembly that could make the courts more equal and about children instead of having their fathers removed from their lives so that others can prevail. We suggest that you call her Monday, and do so every week until she decides to help.

      As you have learned, the domestic courts operate under preponderance of the evidence, meaning all a person needs is an allegation and a few years to have someone arrested, lose their job, and be removed from their kids. In preponderance of the evidence courts, Representative Stevens knows the Judge needs no evidence, witnesses, or anything, it’s what he/she thinks and that is it.

      Let’s look at what Judges have to consider.

      1. The State’s Title IV-D money that keeps Welfare afloat. Read and educate yourself on the payments to states. If you pay $800 a month in child support, the state is reimbursed at 66% after you pay. So just you are generating about $530 per month of federal money back to NC. If you had more time with your children, you wouldn’t pay as much child support thereby decreasing federal money the state is dependent on by career Welfare recipients.
      2. The more people in the family courts for as long as possible = lawyer billable hours.
      3. Politics! Who is it more politically correct to make angry? The massive feminist lobby or fathers who have no lobby group?

      Oh by the way, Representative Stevens is a former family lawyer. Get it now? They don’t care that you don’t see your kids, or that the women in your family are miserable, they want their money.


      Comment by stompkinsnc | September 29, 2015 | Reply

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