NC Fathers Rights

Senator Peter Brunstetter – Republican – Forsyth County

Senator Peter BrunstetterNC Fathers contacted Senator Peter Brunstetter (Republican in Forsyth County NC) on Monday, November 26, 2012 and asked him to give us some insight on whether NC Guardian Ad Litem’s who represent children in the NC Family Courts, and who come to the courts via a NC non-profit 501(c)(3), should be allowed to accept private donations, as well as federal and state grants. NC Fathers is happy to report that his staff and assistants (specifically Mary Marchman) replied to our email and provided research material from the NC General Assembly on this issue. This was refreshing considering that most Senators and Representatives refuse to even discuss issues with us. As stated earlier, we wrote to Senator Brunstetter objecting that organizations who receive federal/state grants and donations brings concern that the agency will act on behalf of the donors instead of as impartial court officials. Especially when this organization shows many grants from womens groups and several of our fathers report that this agency was very harsh with them in the family courts. But, as Senator Brunstetter’s staff pointed out, it is legal. However, we did note with Mrs Marchman that if we started a 501(c)(3) and accepted donations from many fathers groups we certainly would not be allowed in or invited to act as Guardian Ad Litems in ANY NC Court. Before we go any further, we want to introduce ourselves to Senator Peter Brunstetter and Forsyth County NC voters in non-custodial families that come to us as non-custodial fathers and mothers, grandparents, step-parents, and aunts and uncles who object to the obvious and historical bias in the NC Family Courts that always seems to push us to the margins of our minor loved ones lives. Our GOAL is to stop it by building a massive organization of non-custodial voters across NC and Forsyth County NC who hold lawmakers and Judges accountable for this which the NC General Assembly has largely ignored. With this, we hope you will extensively share this article on Senator Peter Brunstetter with other NC families on sites like Facebook, Twitter, Linkedin, and other social networking sites. Additionally, please join our MAILING LIST and FACEBOOK PAGE to tell us of your experiences. If you want to help NC Fathers send the message to the NC General Assembly that the time has come for a more equal family court process, then we would be happy to have you aboard.Posts related to Senator Peter Brunstetter and the Forsyth County NC Republican Party – Judge David Sipprell, Forsyth County Department of Social Services

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Senator Peter Brunstetter and Republican lawmakers

NC Fathers is asking Forsyth County NC Non-Custodial Families, as well as Forsyth County NC Senators and Representatives, and Judges to click on the RED and BLUE graphic below to get a feel for many of the issues we will go into detail on in this article.

Senator of NC

While Senator Pete Brunstetter has nothing to do with federal legislation, we wanted to add this for Forsyth County NC non-custodial families because we feel it is a HUGE part of why you are denied equal parentage and access to your children. Child Support Enforcement is billed as a life saving program that simply provides financial payments to children from a non-custodial parent. What is not told, is that this federal program is also generating a revenue stream to pay for all US States entitlement programs. In looking at the Social Security Act, Title IV-D, Section 458 entitled “Incentive Payments To States”, this legislation generates anywhere from $1 to $2 from federal coffers to US States for every one dollar collected in child support. This money is then used by the States to replenish Welfare and Low Income Assistance Programs. In talking with NC Representatives and Senators, many have said that this is not what this legislation is doing, and that it is an argument that “Fathers Rights” group use to discredit Child Support Enforcement. But they have a hard time explaining this:

“In 1975, Title IV-D was added to the Social Security Act to establish a nationwide Child Support Enforcement (CSE) program, with the purpose of recouping money paid out to welfare recipients when at least one parent was absent from the home and did not provide support.”

But what about when the parent isn’t absent and is denied equal parentage? And what about custodial mothers who are NOT on public assistance, why are the non-custodial fathers in these cases generating money for Welfare?

In short, the quickest way to get more child support collected is to deny equal parentage, keep non-custodial families at a distance, so they pay more child support and generate more federal funds for the State of NC for those that are using Welfare. NC Fathers would certainly be interested to hear what Senator Pete Brunstetter, or other Republican lawmakers in Forsyth County NC, feel about this. But at the end of the day it is what non-custodial families think about it, and we think when you learn about this backdoor side to enforcement you will want to join our organization and start holding your Federal Legislators and Judges accountable for it. Forsyth County NC non-custodial families should not be replenishing Welfare money at the demise of their equal parentage and access to their children.

Senator Peter Brunstetter and the Forsyth County NC Family Courts

The information in this section does apply to Senator Pete Brunstetter and all NC Democrat and Republican Senators and Representatives.

  • There should never be a “pay wall” between a parent and a child. All too often in a Divorce parents will split up, a mother will leave with the child, and not allow the child to see a Father until he spends at a MINIMUM of $7000 to gain access to the child(ren). And, we think there are tens of thousands of Father in NC who do not have that type of money and are effectively shut out of their kids lives. This, in turn, has dramatic affects on the extended family as well.
  • Senator Peter Brunstetter and the Republican Party should be aware that Forsyth County NC family court lawyers are the only ones that win in a court of law. The average custody battle cost on average $15,000 per parent, and statistics show that parents fight at least two in 18 years for a grand total of $60,000. Then when you add in modifications and other matters, that figure jumps to around $80,000. The reason parents are locked in this battle is because the courts are centered around one parent winning, and the other parent losing, which sets off a 18 year battle. NC Fathers would like to see the $80,000 that currently goes to lawyers, go to a down payment on a home for children, healthcare, to start a business, or applied to a college education.
  • NC Fathers would like for Senator Peter Brunstetter explain why Forsyth County NC wives, mothers, sisters, and children are visiting their Fathers in jail because of poverty and inability to pay child support, when custodial mothers have increasing access to housing assistance, job assistance, educational assistance, medical assistance, financial assistance, food assistance, and tax incentives to make financial ends meet? Why does it not make more sense to strengthen BOTH parents for the good of children?
  • Regarding Domestic Violence in Forsyth County NC , Senator Peter Brunstetter and the Republican Party should be aware that Domestic Violence is an insidious problem that needs addressed at a gender neutral level. Regardless of who is doing it, or who is doing it the most is not the issue. The issue is that it must be stopped at all levels. The problem we have is that many organizations and non-profits want access to the billions of dollars allocated to stop domestic violence annually and many want this money to fund their organizations, agendas, and political stature. Additionally, many of these organizations only attack male on female violence while overlooking male on male violence, female on female violence, and female on male violence. These groups use increased statistics to ask for more federal dollars. In short, they benefit financially from increased male on female violence. And, they most certainly benefit when false accusations proceed to conviction because this generates more statistics. One of the central goals for many Domestic Violence groups is to cast a shadow of doubt over all fathers as potential abusers and they use statistics to do this. Domestic Violence is attached to all shared parenting bills that says if someone has a allegation or conviction over their head, shared parenting can not be considered. Our concern is that this will increase false allegations from custodial parents that do not want to do shared parenting, and will make many organizations happy because they receive state and federal dollars from increased statistics. Each day in NC, a child’s family loses contact with their children because many parents have learned that the emotional level of Domestic Violence makes it easy to slip by a false allegation. We should not be playing politics with Domestic Violence or allowing groups to use it as a tool for gender warfare or a political football.
  • Senator Peter Brunstetter and the Forsyth County NC Republican Party should keep in mind that despite the breakup of a marriage, NC Children still have a family. Equally Shared Parenting is the next best thing to preserving that feeling of knowing that you have a mother, father, grandparents, and aunts and uncles that are consistently in your life. Under current NC Law and in the family law courts, non-custodial parents and extended families are pushed far into the margins of a child’s life.
  • Senator Peter Brunstetter and the Forsyth County NC Republican Party should be aware that 80% of custody decisions are made outside court where a Father consented to not having custody, and that many “experts” use this to show that most fathers do not want custody of their children, or equal parentage and access to their children. However, we believe that Fathers consent to this because they know if they go into the Forsyth County NC Family Courts, they are just going to lose and spend $20,000 because historically, that is what has happened for going on five decades.
  • NC Fathers has heard from many NC Senators and Representatives that Fathers just want equally shared parenting because they do not want to pay child support. But for Fathers who do have equally shared parenting, they are spending more money (than enforced child support) on their children during the equal times they have them. And quite frankly Senator Brunstetter, why is nobody in the NC General Assembly considering that many NC women have children to get child support and access to the ever expanding social services and tax benefits that is offered to them so easily?
  • Many NC Senators, Representatives, and “Professionals” point to the many absent and disinterested fathers that exist in NC today compared to caring and loving mothers as a reason why Fathers do not need to be equal parents with equal access.

Republican Voters

NC Fathers thinks that it is very obnoxious that Forsyth County NC families have to listen to this rhetoric mainly from groups and socialized people who want to maintain complete women and children centered courts at the demise of non-custodial fathers, step-mothers, paternal grandmothers, and aunts and uncles.

  • NC Fathers is sending the message to Forsyth County NC Senator Pete Brunstetter and the Republican Party that it is time to stop ALL NC adoptions until amended legislation is in place protecting a biological father from having a child he did not know existed from being adopted out. Consistently, we are hearing more and more fathers tell us that they learned about a biological child of theirs being adopted out because the mother of the child refused to help adoptions agencies discover the father. NC Fathers is not against adoptions, but we do believe that a biological parent’s natural love outweighs an adoptive family’s love. This issue not only affects NC Fathers, but the many women in paternal families who have a natural love for their biologically related children.
  • Senator Pete Brunstetter should be aware that in NC 40% of children born in the State are coming from parents who are not married, or parents where one or both of the parents are married to someone else and this is dangerous for children legally and emotionally. Under current NC law, the biological fathers have ZERO rights to their children unless they can afford $7000 retainers, and this puts added pressure on the “married father” with no biological origin to the child. This is most certainly a dangerous scenario.

Child Support

Roughly half of custodial mothers today have male children who will one day be pushed to the margins of their kids lives if they experience a divorce and have children. Where do you think these non-custodial grandmothers (who will also be marginalized as well) will stand then? With Equally Shared Parenting?


Senator Peter Brunstetter and Forsyth County NC Non-Custodial Family Voter and The Path To Reform

Given the Divorce rate in NC, Senator Pete Brunstetter and the Forsyth County NC Republican Party should recognize that county non-custodial fathers, step-mothers, paternal grandparents, aunts and uncles, other family members and friends make up a significant portion of voters in Forsyth County. And, quite frankly, NC Fathers thinks that these families are tired of being marginalized in their children’s lives so that special interest groups, lobbyist, Welfare, and lawyers can make a buck. Senator Brunstetter should recognize that non-custodial families are represented by many WOMEN, from African American families, Hispanic Families, and other ethnicity. Also, that we come from every socioeconomic and political party affiliation. NC Fathers wants to make it painfully clear to these Forsyth County NC families that you are naturally a huge lobby in itself that can force changes in the NC Family Courts if you will help us unite you. Senator Pete Brunstetter, as a lawyer himself, should know that every Monday through Friday the Forsyth County Family Courts spits out another group of Non-Custodial families and we are going to make sure that they find us, and learn about the information presented above.

As Forsyth County NC Non-Custodial family, we ask that you routinely and extensively share this article on Senator Pete Brunstetter with other families via sites like Facebook, Twitter, and other networks to bring about greater awareness. And lastly, please consider joining our MAILING LIST and FACEBOOK PAGE.

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November 28, 2012 - Posted by | Uncategorized |


  1. Thank you for support of children needing parental support and chld custody. I live in Carteret County, NC. However, families I know have a concern about the Children’s Home in Winston Salem closing in a few months. Children that may be placed in undesirable homes due to the lack of time to screen properly. Please address this issue for the children’s sake.
    Barbara Howland, Morehead City, NC
    252 247 5329


    Comment by Ronald and Barbara Howland | November 8, 2013 | Reply

    • Hi Barbara, have you contacted all Forsyth county representatives and senators to bring your concerns to their ear?


      Comment by stompkinsnc | November 8, 2013 | Reply

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