NC Fathers Rights

NC Child Custody Law and FAQs

NC Child Custody Law and FAQsBefore discussing NC Child Custody Law and FAQs, we must inform you that NC Fathers IS NOT a law firm, and nor are we attorneys. Nothing in this article implies legal advice. For legal advice contact a Child Custody Lawyer. NC Fathers is a growing group of NC Non-Custodial families who are finally standing up to the NC Legislature and Judges to bring about reform in Child Custody Law in NC. You can help us by joining OUR MAILING LIST and FACEBOOK PAGE, as well as viewing OUR GOALS. In discussing Child Custody Law and Reform, we think it is important to talk about everyone in the non-custodial family, be it a father/mother, step-parent, grandparents, aunts and uncles, and other family members who always find themselves marginalized to a visitor role 4-5 days a month in the NC Family Courts. To our organization, this is unacceptable because we feel that bringing equal parentage and access to a child(ren) by both parents and extended families brings far greater resources and opportunities for children than any big government enforcement agency can ever deliver by financial means alone. To help use reach our GOAL, we need you to extensively share this article on major social networking sites like Facebook and Twitter to draw in NC’s estimated 5.5 million voters who have direct ties to a NC non-custodial family.Posts related to NC Child Custody Laws and FAQs – Your NC Lawyer, NC Swing Voters, Senator Richard Burr

NC Child Custody Law and FAQs for Non-Custodial Families

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Child Custody FAQs:

  • Despite the NC Legislature providing that there shall be NO presumption for which parent gets custody of a child, 84-85% of mothers get custody. This number has not changed since 1997 despite Judges and Legislators saying that non-custodial fathers have more time with their children.
  • Under the NC Family Law system, there is no such thing as joint physical custody or shared parenting. During a child custody hearing, one parent HAS to be designated as the custodial parent, and one parent HAS to be designated the non-custodial parent.
  • NC Fathers believes that NC Child Custody Law and the division between parents benefits neither parent or child, but is a huge financial incentive for lawyers who benefit from two parents fighting for 18 years so that they can bill.
  • NC Fathers believes that by giving one parent 80+% more time with the child, tax incentives, and growing social services support to make financial ends meet while imprisoning the non-custodial parent when he gets into financial trouble hurts children. And from this, a stage is set for huge conflict between parents which further hurts children.
  • The average NC Child Custody battle costs on average $20,000 PER Parent and the average is that parents will fight an average of two in 18 years for a grand total of $80,000 which could be used for healthcare expenses, college, trade school, a home, or to start a business.
  • NC Fathers believes that NC Child Custody Laws are centered around child support collection rather than a child’s best interest. There is clear evidence that the State of NC receives Title IV-D federal money from the Social Security Act on the amount of child support collected that is then used to reimburse Welfare and Low Income Asisstance programs. In being dependent on this federal money, NC needs for the non-custodial family to have very little time with their children so that they pay greater amounts of child support which triggers federal money.
  • NC Fathers believes that the NC Family Courts create Domestic Violence where not needed, because one of the parents fear, become overwhelmed with eventual loss, succumb to anxiety, and are unable to cope with turmoil while the other parent (knowing historically she is going to win) throws it in his face.
  • NC Fathers believes that the NC child custody courts create a system where parents HAVE to win (or avoid losing) and these parents do ANYTHING to win or keep from losing, which often leads to false allegations of abuse, kidnappings, and other measures.

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NC Child Custody Laws, FAQs, and Non-Custodial Families

In reading our article on the National Child Support Enforcement Association, they actually admit that children who grow up with Fathers do better in many areas of their personal life, developmentally, socially, and in school. Again, this is NOT our data, it is from the national lobby for enforcement:

  • “Fatherlessness is the most harmful demographic trend of this generation. It is the leading cause of declining child well-being in our society.”
  • “The Center for Disease Control, the Department of Justice and the Bureau of the Census report: Of the 30% of children who live apart from their fathers, they will account for 63% of teen suicides, 70% of juveniles in state-operated institutions, 71% of high-school dropouts, 75% of children in chemical-abuse centers, 80% of rapists, 85% of youths in prison, 85% of children who exhibit behavioral disorders, and 90% of homeless and runaway children are from fatherless homes.”
  • “Children born to unwed mothers are ten times more likely to live in poverty as children with fathers in the home.”
  • “The causal link between fatherless children and crime is so strong that controlling for family configuration erases the relationship between race and crime and between low income and crime.”
  • “Most social problems — crime, drug abuse, unwed pregnancy and abortion, youth suicide, school dropouts, domestic violence, and the like — are the direct consequence of fatherless households.”
  • “They don’t have the benefit of a father’s wisdom, guidance, love, no, but what’s far worse is that they never knew such things existed.”
  • “Children who grow up with their fathers do far better — emotionally, educationally, physically, every way we can measure — than children who do not.”

Child Custody FAQs in NC

Despite this data, child custody laws in North Carolina continue to demand that Fathers be removed from children’s lives and put into a role of visitor instead of as a Father. Now many of you reading this will be custodial parents or Women who say that the Father in your case REFUSED to be a Father even though you wanted that, and the evidence that there are so many “Deadbeat Dads” is proof that shared parenting laws are not needed. Unfortunately, there is a reason for the number of absent Fathers, and we believe that many men either give up custody of a child voluntarily outside court because why go to court and spend $20,000 in the first place just to lose?

NC Fathers believes that if NC Child Custody Laws were more equal and Fathers thought they had a chance, then more Fathers would make that leap of faith.

And, quite frankly, the assertion by many custodial mothers that they want the Father equally involved in a child’s life is said to not appear as being a bad person. The fact is, we think many custodial mothers enjoy the Father of their children being absent so that they have access to educational assistance, job assistance, medical assistance, food assistance, housing assistance, tax incentives, and other programs that help many mothers reach goals they might not otherwise have without a child and active father.

NC Fathers and Child Custody Laws

And, the State of NC has capitalized on the absent Father issue by turning it into a framework where they can pay for all this assistance using Title IV-D money. While this may work for the minority of Fathers who do choose to be absent, it has become the standard in ALL NC Child Custody Law matters and also gets Fathers and Families who do want to be equal parents.

Reforming NC Child Custody Laws by Non-Custodial Families

For going on six decades now, there are very well funded and entrenched organizations who’s sole purpose is to make sure that the NC Family Courts and Child Custody Laws stay focused on Women and Children at the demise of Fathers. This is why it is so important for WOMEN in paternal families to start raising their hands and objecting. Child Custody Reform in NC will never be an issue because it is right, simply because there is too much money and political stature being made by Lawyers and Organizations that benefit from the marginalization of non-custodial families.

There will NEVER be reform to Child Custody Laws in NC until the tens of millions of NC non-custodial families in this State start making this an issue with their Legislators and Judges at election time, and this is our goal. Our goal again is to build an equally powerful organization as those that demand unequal child custody courts in NC.

Additionally, it is important to remember that this issue affects everyone from all racial and ethnic backgrounds, economic status, and political party affiliation.

To help NC Fathers reach it’s goal of Family Law Reform for Equal Child Custody Laws in NC, we ask that you join OUR MAILING LIST and FACEBOOK PAGE and get involved with us, and it is super important that you share this article on NC Child Custody Laws with other families by email and social networking sites. Also, if you have a website or blog, please consider copying and pasting the code below the picture into your site to help bring about greater awareness.

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December 16, 2012 - Posted by | Uncategorized


  1. what rights do teen fathers have? ive gotten a dna test and everything but they still refuse to let me have my son even for a few hours once a week, and now they want to take me to court


    Comment by bryce | March 21, 2014 | Reply

    • Bryce, join us on Facebook and send us a message.


      Comment by stompkinsnc | March 22, 2014 | Reply

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