NC Fathers Rights

Why is tone is so harsh

Honestly, we get asked this question a lot!

We really do not like being harsh, but here is what we believe in very strongly:

Politicians, Judges, and Special Interest Groups only think of FOUR things:

  • Money
  • Power
  • Votes
  • Or the LACK OF one or more of the three above

It does NOT take a rocket scientist to understand that children love and want to be with each of their parents equally. But Judges, Legislators, and Special Interest groups make money, win votes, and receive power from the divisive family system, fathers not seeing their children, and the federal agencies ready to pounce on money that can be diverted to their special projects.

Another reason we are so harsh is that it is super politically correct to cower to the women oriented special interest groups that gives Judges, Politicians, and Special Interest a LOT of attention. They have NO Interest in the Paternal Family or Fathers. It sickens us to know that the before-mentioned groups would think of themselves and their pockets before the paternal family relationship with their young loved ones.

We are not here to make friends with the people and groups we write about. We are here to get you, the father, you the paternal grandmother, you the step-mother, you the sister of a father to understand that you are a powerful group together that could change your desperate situation in a month if you started affecting the groups above MONEY, POWER, or VOTES to secure a real relationship with your children.

Do you not realize that non-custodial families represent greater than 50% of the US population? If your tired of the issues we face, start ending politicians and judges careers!



  1. I hear you, but you still may want to consider your tone. Sure, people can relate to the content of your message, but the tone says alot as well. As a paternal aunt of a child who was in a bitter custody battle, I know the pain of being torn from a loved one knowing full well that her mother used her as a pawn. However, now as a mother, your bitterness worries me. It’s easy for your message to get lost in its packaging and I really don’t want that for you because I am proud of you for being big enough to buck the status quo. However, your tone is that of attack, bitterness, and ‘not cowering to women in a politically correct way’ which is contradictory to the idea that we should all work together for the good of the children. You need women’s support and cooperation on this issue and you won’t get it with that tone, bottom line! We don’t respond well to that and if, as you infer, we will be losing leverage if a father has equal access to his children, why would we, even as paternal aunts, grandmothers, etc. be willing to give you an inch if you come across so negative? Though you may not be actually saying this, what I feel as a result of reading your website is that we are in a war now over children and if you back a woman into a corner over her children she will come out swinging harder than you could imagine. Those paternal aunts, grandmothers, etc.–yes, they have an interest in your cause, but they, if they ARE mothers, are mothers FIRST. You HAVE to remember that. They may not want their sons to deal with difficulties having access to their children, but they would want to protect their own interests as mothers STILL. Your mission: show women how your cause is in their best interest BECAUSE it is in the best interest of their children! And it may not take a rocket scientist to see that children want to be with each parent equally, but as YOU are fighting the uphill battle it is your duty to remove all barriers to achieving your goal. Attitude is a major barrier. Otherwise, good luck with this, and I’ll keep an eye out for your cause.


    Comment by Concerned_Citizen | October 25, 2012 | Reply

    • Hi Concerned Citizen,
      Of our 5,874 mailing list subscribers, 75% are women and we have found that they have far more harsh tones on this than we do. Our Social Media membership is 80% women.


      Comment by stompkinsnc | October 25, 2012 | Reply

    • Are you by chance the mother of a male child?


      Comment by stompkinsnc | October 25, 2012 | Reply

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