NC Family Courts Hurt Families And Children

Before we talk about how the NC Family Courts hurt families and children, it is important to say that hopefully anyone alive with children these days wants the best outcomes for their children even if that involves a divorce or relationship breakdown. And, there is overwhelming evidence that divorce has a serious impact on children physically, emotionally, and psychologically if the divorce is bitter and involves 18 years of battles.

Simply put, any divorce involving kids has the best outcomes when the parents are able to put aside their differences and reaches their own child custody and visitation/ shared parenting agreement outside the NC Family Courts. Unfortunately, that is hard to do for a large number of parents because of bad communication skills, even if they have the mentality and even desire to reach an agreement.

We suspect that many parents are able to reach agreement, it’s their ability to communicate that gets in the way. And, unfortunately, these cases always ends up in the family courts.

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Today, in talking with a friend of mine, a female who has custody of her child and who’s husband has the usual every other weekend and one other day every other week confided in me that she really wants to do equally shared parenting with her husband, who also wants to do it. But here is the problem she grapples with.

We all know that the NC Family Courts knows no other way to deal with custody that to empower one parent while pushing the other parent to the farthest margins of the child’s life. It’s all they have known for going on 70 years. It makes sense to the courts, because it extracts the largest child support possible which ensures U.S. States get the largest possible Title IV-D money at the end of the month from the government, and it ensures that two parents will fight for 18 years which makes lawyers money.

My friend told me that if she tells the court that her ex, while in her assertion is a horrible husband but a good father, she may lose the upper hand with the courts that could possibly give him custody.

In short, she needs the courts to see him as a horrible person so that she does not possibly lose custody even though she wants her children to have access and be raised by both parents.

This is why if shared parenting was how our family courts operated, it would allow more parents like this to not lose custody as there is no advantage for either parent and every bit of advantage for the children.

If there is nothing to win (or lose in this case) in the courts, then parents will find ways to put their children’s best interest at heart instead of manufacturing data to excoriate the other parent so he/she can win a court battle.

If you are a non-custodial family member in NC who has concerns about how the NC Family Courts operate, or if you are someone who realizes that the family courts in North Carolina create more problems for children, then we encourage you to join our FACEBOOK PAGE and get involved within the organization. Also, we hope that you will share this document with friends and family on Facebook, Twitter, Google+, and other networks so that we can send a message to Judges and Legislators that the time has come to reform the NC Family Courts.

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