Child Support You Owe it, Pay it On Facebook

Have you seen the “Child Support You Owe it, Pay it” page On Facebook yet? We hadn’t either until a female supporter of this organization pointed it out to us and we think it contains some very valuable information that non-custodial families need to consider in their activism towards equally shared parenting, a more fair court system, and custodial parents who use their children to gain child support and social services benefits over allowing their ex-spouse to be an equal parent.

NC Fathers is an organization that advocates for all non-custodial parents, regardless of gender. It is very rare for us to get involved in a gender war with other groups, because quite frankly it does nothing. But the “Child Support You Owe it, Pay it” page On Facebook is one issue that needs addressing and unfortunately we find ourselves focusing just on non-custodial fathers in this case. However, with that said, if anyone reading this article finds a active organization of men that advocate for sole custody for fathers, or publicly slanders mothers then by all means bring it to our attention and we will act on it.

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Interestingly, the owner of this page seems to be advocating for her son. So what happens when her son becomes a man and father, meets a girl who gets pregnant by him, leaves him, works via the courts to dispose of him, then demands child support over equal parenting, and gets on social media to excoriate him? Great way to advocate for your sons ladies.

In looking at the “Child Support You Owe it, Pay it” page On Facebook, the first think that jumps out at you is the advocacy for violence and turning children against their fathers. Our organization, along with others will be filing an official complaint with Facebook’s headquarters very shortly in an attempt to take this page down, and we hope you will work with us to do it. Let’s take a look at many of the example memes you will find on the site:

Here is a meme that teaches children to hate their fathers because mom is a member of a Facebook page that claims he owes child support, so let’s use the child to drown dad. Thought women didn’t commit domestic violence?

Advocating for physical and sexual mutilation of men because mothers feel that they can’t pay child support. And Facebook is allowing this group of almost 10,000 members to advocate for that?

Another meme advocating that it is OK to tell a bedtime story to a child and a mother using her anger towards her ex-husband to malign her children.

Women in paternal families, how do you feel about the Mother’s of your grandchildren advocating for defecating on your son?

Another example of mothers on the “Child Support You Owe it, Pay it” Facebook page openly advocating for physical and domestic violence. And these mothers call themselves the better parent?

Advocating for the use of gun violence on a non-custodial dad because you have a child support conflict with him. Great, and they say Women never make jokes about domestic violence?

Do you think the admins and supporters of this Facebook page would advocate that custodial fathers commit domestic violence on Mothers? I’m guessing not.

Look, our organization has no problem with advocating for the enforcement of child support when a parent is purposefully absent in a child’s life and has no desire to be a parent even if that parent had the opportunity. The problem with this is I can guarantee you 90% of the people on the “Child Support You Owe it, Pay it” Facebook page would be the first in line to prevent their ex from having equal parenting if he wanted to in an effort to get child support. And, there are many reasons for a parent not paying child support that does not get addressed. And very little about this gets talked about.

This is one problem, the other problem is that Facebook’s terms of service forbids any type of gender discrimination. One would think that this Facebook page is against ALL parents who do not pay child support right? Not this organization, they are only interested in excoriating fathers who aren’t paying child support but giving mothers a free pass. How that helps all children who are supposed to be receiving child support is beyond us.

Here are some screenshots to make our point. Keep in mind that these screenshots are open to the public:

Here is a man who simply argues that parents who do not pay child support are not always men. This first comment by the admin of this Facebook Page is to call HIM a deadbeat parent:

Apparently this organization believes that there is not one mother in the world who has never payed child support:

Here is an instance of one of the admins on the “Child Support You Owe it, Pay it” Facebook page giving legal advice, a VERY strict boundary in the Facebook terms of service, yet nobody is calling them out on it:

More advocacy for domestic violence to collect child support:

Notice how on the memes below, the page admins have nothing to say:

Here is the “Child Support You Owe it, Pay it” Facebook page admins encouraging a mother to break what is clearly language spelled out in all child custody orders to not disparage the other parent in public. We have over 40 names and cities of women posting this stuff on the public Internet and Facebook Page, and will have a blog for each (like the one above) that no doubt the father will find eventually and be able to use in court. Sharon Dawson Holdstock, per your court order and regardless of your child support claims, are you supposed to be excoriating Mark Francis Webb from Braintree in Essex per your court order on the public Internet?

Another clear violation of Facebook’s Acceptable Use Policy:

Any one of these MEMES is grounds to have this Facebook page closed. This one should help Lawrence Bruce file an action in court against Sarah Clare when we get a blog up. And we have 38 screenshots and counting.

Lila Blake, are you supposed to be excoriating Alan Webster on the public Internet and Facebook? Alan, get up with us.

Cindy McPhail, are you supposed to be excoriating Louie Perry (your child’s father) on the Public Internet and Facebook per your court order?

Alisa Keckler Boodt, per your court order, are you supposed to be openly excoriating and slandering Daniel Davies on the public Internet just because you feel you have a child support complaint? Daniel Davies, contact us.

Niese Bock, are you supposed to be on the public Internet excoriating your child’s other parent, or are you supposed to handle this via the courts? Perhaps Santo Locicero needs to be contacted about a slander lawsuit against you?

Here is a word to the unfortunate many women who are finding themselves non-custodial parents and screaming about father’s rights organizations who are clearly re-defining the child custody laws, before you go screaming about these fathers, you need to look no further than the MANY groups on Facebook like the “Child Support You Owe it, Pay it” to see why there is an International movement in this area. I personally have never seen a father’s Rights group in existence today that advocates for sole custody of children to men as the default presumption in the family courts. For you mothers that don’t like hearing it, it is usually the mother’s rights advocating for it and it is causing women in paternal families and men into a movement about to redefine everything. With that in mind, it is important for non-custodial mothers to take issue with this Facebook page and others like it so that the family courts will stop the gender warfare and get down to establishing courts that empower both parents and not focus on getting child support over disparaging another parent.

Contact us to learn more about how you can officially make a complaint with Facebook over this page, because it is most certainly violating the social network’s terms of service and I believe many of the non-custodial parents names that we have captured have a contempt of court violation for many of the supporters of this page which we plan to expose in further blogs for them to find on the search engines.

Use the comment section below to give us feedback on this interesting organization and be sure to contact Facebook:

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